Back from the USSR

Apologies for the lack of new content in recent times, but I return a very relaxed and happy man!

Why?

I just spent the whole month in the depths of the FSU (former Soviet Union).

And am I refreshed?

You bet... 100% !!

It's now Springtime - snow melting off the mountains, trees regaining their leaves, the smell of flowers in the air where-ever you walk...

And the coats and jackets are being cast-aside - people enjoying being outdoors, and paying more attention to what they wear - adjusting the wardrobe for Spring and Summer!

Parks and tree-lined avenues are buzzing with people, often with no agenda at all, just wanting to be outdoors with other people. To be part of life.

And beautiful girls notice the non-local, and I have their undivided attention, even with my wife on my arm.

She just looks straight ahead, always the dignified lady, the most subtle contented smile.

Later she will laugh with her female relatives and old aquaintances about things that happen - why I get so much better service in many shops, whereas most people never even get a smile...

And I think, hang-on, it's only "me"... just an everyday nobody / Mr Average in my own country.

But this is a whole different world...

And I like it!

The Beauty of Women's Day

I've heard some great success stories of guys impressing their ladies on Women's Day just passed.

Unfortunately in this country, it is almost unknown, and is certainly not a public holiday.

Whilst going about business as usual on Thursday (March 8 - Women's Day), I asked different people, both male and female, if they knew anything about it, or were doing anything special.

Let's just say the response was disappointing to say the least.

The women were generally just ignorant of it.

But the reaction of men was much more of a shock.

The general response was something like: "What for? Why do we have to have a day for everything, and why isn't there a day for us?" (etc)

I honestly found that quite surprising, until I thought about it more.

On the surface, the women appear apathetic, and the men seem resentful of the idea (of a day for women). But there must, of course, be reasons for this.

I think one major reason is a perception in the West that International Women's Day is all about the feminist movement, and is therefore a day of male/female politics and conflict, rather than any reason for celebration.

Of course what is interesting is that in Russia (and many other countries) where Women's Day is a huge holiday and celebration, it is no such thing. Feminist movements and politics simply do not factor into it.

Women's day is such an overwhelming success there because it is a day of respect, thanks, appreciation, admiration, love, friendship, and a celebration of femininity - NOT feminism. It's about real women, and men's acknowledgment of these proud females in their life.

By contrast, we in the West place emphasis on other days, for example "Mother's Day" - a nice concept, but it has been totally hijacked by the retail industry who pressure us into buying ever more, "bigger and better" gifts, to "show we care". The beauty, and the whole point, is somewhat lost.

Now contrast that back to Russia (and many other countries), where, along with flowers and chocolate giving, gifts are more often personally made rather than simply bought. It is much more about thoughts and actions, rather than materialism.

If you missed the significance of this beautiful day (not hard when you live in the West), it's not too late to show someone in one of those (perhaps, "more enlightened") countries that you care. Let her know you have found out the significance of the day (which is not celebrated in your own country), and "give congratulations" to her. She will understand and appreciate this. Ask her how she celebrated the day.

And never miss it again...!

Do Russian Women Prefer Men With Degrees?

If you look at profiles of Russian women, they are most often holders of university degrees and will usually state they seek men who are also of higher education (i.e. college / university degree).

What if you don't have one? Does that harm your chances? Does it seriously narrow the field?

I would answer: No - there are much more important considerations.

Russian women considering husbands from abroad are more interested in basic human qualities more than higher education.

They want to know if you truly desire marriage and children.
They want to know if you are ready to love and be loved.
They want to know if you are a "good person", kind, honest, faithful and generous to those you are close to.
They place great importance on your attitude to alcohol - no heavy drinking.

If you can satisfy the above, (not too much to ask for!), then you are well on your way to success.

Other factors such as how rich, educated or good-looking you are, are of little importance to a genuine Russian bride-to-be.

Basic human qualities rate far above possessions or achievements.

Now, isn't that the way it should be?

Russian Brides - What's The Catch?

Some things in life seem too good to be true.

If you're using the internet to search for a partner, a healthy dose of scepticism is not a bad thing. It can even be critical when sorting the genuine from the non-genuine, the suitable from the non-suitable.

When you see profiles of women who seem to be "just too good to be true", then the next thought is usually, "OK, if they're genuine - what's the catch?"

To many men from Western nations, it is highly refreshing to see not only physical attractiveness exhibited by the "average" Russian lady, but also real feminine beauty in their thoughts, desires, interests, and expectations of relationships and family.

What's the catch?

There will, of course, be some cultural differences, usually some language difficulties to overcome, adjustment to a new life. But, not only are these easy to overcome, they can also be an enriching and positive aspect to your relationship. (I think this is so important and so overlooked by most people that it will be written-up as a seperate article in the future.)

Really, the only thing men should keep in mind that may possibly seen as a "catch" is:

Russian women want CHILDREN.

If you see a Russian lady as the ideal partner, but you do not want children, you are looking in the wrong place for your future wife.

Of course, having children is the ultimate achievement for all of us - male or female, but whereas many women in the West may increasingly see it as a "choice", to Russian women, it is an essential part of womanhood. It is an absolute given that a Russian woman should marry and have children. It is a cornerstone piece of their cultural make-up and upbringing.

Any man who wants to have children should take this as a "godsend", because not only does she want to have children, she will take it as a joy and a pleasure to nurture your children in the most loving and caring way - like you have never seen before.

To see a Russian woman with her baby is nothing short of beautiful. To see how she sees it as a blessing and a privilege to cater to that child's needs and healthy upbringing, (and not a chore, or a burden, or a "difficult responsibility") - is breath-taking!

OK, so what if she already HAS children?

That now becomes an individual question. If she has more than one child already, she will most likely be content to not have any more. Even if she has only one child, she may also be content to not have any more, as it is not unusual for Russians to have only one or two children.

What if YOU already have children?

She may be fully accepting of your existing children, but she will still want to have at least one child herself. Life would not otherwise be complete for her as a woman.

Is it better to have a child together regardless of how many existing children either of you have? In my opinion, yes, but of course it will depend upon both of your individual wants and desires. Your ages may also have a bearing on your decision. If you're both over 35, and already have children, then you are probably both past the "having children" stage, and are content to seek stable family life with your existing brood. Your (and her) choice.

So is there no other scenario?

There always exceptions to the "rules", but the vast majority of Russian women fall into this category. Children are an essential part of life. It is natural for them, and they will tell you just that! A dream to be fulfilled.

To any real man, this should not be daunting in any way, it should be a huge relief!

Not only can you find the ideal WIFE, but ideal MOTHER to your children. You've hit the jackpot! The best of both worlds - in more ways than one.

If that doesn't inspire you to pursue this particular road to happiness and fulfillment, then I seriously don't know what will.

You can give shallow women the flick. Real women are out there.


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Those Ukraine Girls...

This old song keeps coming to mind. Not quite sure why, but must be something to do with seeing too many gorgeous girls from Ukraine!

I'll feature them more in "Russian Women Outside Russia - Part 2" very shortly, but in the meantime, I'll leave you with the classic song, AND, for your visual pleasure, a lovely Ukranian girl for this week's "Russian Beauty of The Week". (scroll down the page...)


Back in the U.S.S.R. - The Beatles

(Lennon/McCartney)

Oh, flew in from Miami Beach B.O.A.C.
Didn't get to bed last night
On the way the paper bag was on my knee
Man I had a dreadful flight

I'm back in the U.S.S.R.
You don't know how lucky you are boy
Back in the U.S.S.R.
(Yeah)

Been away so long I hardly knew the place
Gee it's good to be back home
Leave it till tomorrow to unpack my case
Honey disconnect the phone

I'm back in the U.S.S.R.
You don't know how lucky you are boy
Back in the U.S.
Back in the U.S.
Back in the U.S.S.R.

Well the Ukraine girls really knock me out
They leave the West behind
And Moscow girls make me sing and shout
That Georgia's always on my mind

Aw come on!
Ho yeah!
Ho yeah!
Ho ho yeah!
Yeah yeah!
Yeah I'm back in the U.S.S.R.
You don't know how lucky you are boys
Back in the U.S.S.R.

Well the Ukraine girls really knock me out
They leave the West behind
And Moscow girls make me sing and shout
That Georgia's always on my mind

Oh, show me around your snow-peaked mountains way down south
Take me to your daddy's farm
Let me hear your balalaika's ringing out
Come and keep your comrade warm

I'm back in the U.S.S.R.
Hey you don't know how lucky you are boys
Back in the U.S.S.R.
Oh let me tell you,
honeyHey,
I'm back!
I'm back in the U.S.S.R.
Yes, I'm free!
Yeah, back in the U.S.S.R.
Ha ha

Russian Women and Stupid Men - Part 2

What's worse than the possibility of being labelled "stupid" by other people after getting scammed?

Knowing you've been scammed, and feeling / labelling YOURSELF as being stupid.

So, just "bury your head in the sand" and "hope for the best"?
I don't think so!

As the wise old saying goes - Prevention is better than cure.

If you haven't already read Part 1 to this, do so now...

http://russianwomen4westernmen.blogspot.com/2007/01/russian-women-and-stupid-men-part-1.html

Now, in this part, let's look at Basic Money Scam Scenarios and Red Flags to watch out for.

Most scams/fraud against men from Western countries by women from Russia or FSU countries, are not too sophisticated in nature, but for the unwary, they could at least waste your time and possibly impact upon your view of the women in general, let-alone take your money.

Picture these scenarios:

You contact a lady, or are contacted by one, and you start exchanging correspondence to get to know one another. After a few weeks everything seems to be going well despite the language and cultural differences, and then she asks if it would be possible for you to send a little money for her to continue to use the "Internet Club" to keep up the emails between you and her.

Is she a scammer?

You're in contact with a lady, and all is going well, then she says she wants to come and meet you in your country. She will organize things. No mention of money.

Is she a scammer?

Again, all is going well, she writes many emails but does not answer any specific questions you ask, or if she does, it is only as a short note at the end of the message.

Is she a scammer?

OK, straight to it -
1st scenario - maybe, maybe not.
2nd scenario - most likely.
3rd scenario - most likely.

In the first scenario, it's not a good sign if any woman is that forward in asking for money, as most genuine ladies would not, especially before you truly get to know each other. Having said that, it's true that many of them do have to use internet cafes to access email, as most people in FSU still do not have internet access at home. The cost is not huge, but compared to incomes, it can be relatively expensive. Still, to always protect yourself, remember "Rule 1" (don't send money).

In the second scenario, if she states her intention to come to you in order to meet, even if there is no mention of money (yet), start running (away)! She can NOT visit you. That's all there is to it. When you're serious about your Russian girlfriend, you'll have to go and meet her, in her country. You can bet your bottom dollar that even though she does not indicate any need for money, things will "happen", just before she is due to depart (and just as you're getting excited), and she will require you to send the dollars! And then some!

In the third scenario, it's a bad sign because it sounds like she could be sending you "form letters", the same ones that every other guy she's scamming is also receiving! If the girl is genuine, she wants to know about YOU, just like you want to know about her. She especially wants to know basic things to determine that you are a "good" man, and want to have family life and children. If the letters are all flattery, romance, and infatuation, but not really practical exchanges to get to know one-another, get ready to be disappointed!

Red Flags!

You need to be cautious when....

• She contacts YOU first via a large, free for all, dating site
• She has great photos but little information in her on-line profile
• She writes of "structure" in her profile or initial contact
• She sends you nude or very suggestive photos
• She specifically mentions anything about being a virgin
• Photos she sends have file names that contradict her story/name
• Her profile location contradicts where she says she is located
• Her childhood friend married a man from Germany or France (not an English speaking country)
• Her English is very good - all sentences make sense (Russian-English translation usually results in "jumbled" English at best)
• She writes poetry - in English (again, translation would ruin it)
• She starts writing very affectionately within a short time
• She declares her love or strong desire for you within a few months
• She asks for money at any time, for any reason, before you have met
• She writes of financial difficulty or crisis (an implied or actual money request is just around the corner!)
• She questions you on your income, wealth, assets, in any way
• She says she has no home phone but can call you from another phone
• She says she can get herself a Visa to come and see you. (NOT possible)
• She says she has family or friend in Visa office, airport, or travel agency
• She changes/contradicts details about her family and life
• She makes a mistake with your (or even her) name
• She knows exactly how Western Union (etc) money transfers work

Many of these appear obvious, but they can often appear quite innocent when combined with a good story.

The issue of photos can be tricky. A photo added to each letter can be a bad sign - part of a "form letter" system. Only ever receiving one or two photos can also be a bad sign as they may have just been lifted from the web somewhere. Ask for more photos, and if she does not have them on computer (which could be most likely), ask her to send by real mail.

As stated above, check the file names of images wherever possible - look for different girls names, methodical numbering system, or file names that sound like statements (to fit the form letters, and different scenarios).

A genuine Russian husband seeker is not going to send you nude or very suggestive photos of herself. Nor is she going to mention her virginity. She is also very unlikely to show her deepest feelings toward you for quite some time, as they tend to be guarded about such things, especially before you have met in person.

Any genuine girl also knows she can NOT get a Visa to visit you in a Western country, whether it be a "tourist", "student" or "fiance" Visa, whenever she likes. YOU have to assist her to get the Visa, and remember Visas can ONLY be obtained through your country's embassy/consulate, not through any "agency".

If someone does not have their own phone, then chances are they can also not afford to make overseas phone calls to you! Yes, it IS possible she does not have a home phone, let-alone a cell/mobile phone, but she should still be able and willing to give you another number, usually of a family member close-by, who does have a phone. She should also be very willing to give you her home address, so you could send her (real/postal) mail.

Remember that some of the above scenarios could come up and she may still be a 100% genuine girl, so be careful not to dismiss someone instantly just because you see a "red flag". If anything looks suspicious - test her out on something, it's not hard. If more red flags appear, then it's time to make a decision and move on.

What if you're still not quite sure?
What can you do make sure your Russian beauty is real and everything adds up?

I will continue with that very theme in Part 3...


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Russian Women and TRUE BEAUTY

Much is made of the physical beauty of Russian women in general, but there's something even more important about them.

I call this: TRUE BEAUTY

Not all "beautiful" people are what most people would term "physically attractive".

And, you guessed it - not all "physically attractive" people are truly "beautiful".

Really, everyone knows this, and it is especially true in Western countries.

So is "true beauty" the combination of the two? No, not necessarily!

Of course, "TRUE BEAUTY" really equals: "INNER BEAUTY".

BUT, it seems to me that on average, Russian women are FAR more likely to have that "inner beauty", AND, couple that with physical attractiveness - Wow!

AND, it is true to say that "inner beauty" SHOWS on the outside. It is projected!

Observe a Russian woman (or picture this in your mind):

• Who takes pride in her femininity
• Who takes pride in her health
• Who takes pride in her appearance
• Who knows how to walk - like a lady
• Who takes pride in being the most important part of her family
• Who treasures interacting with and nurturing children
• Who cares about the people around her
• Who is highly educated
• Who knows (and practices) self-discipline and personal responsibility
• Who is still able to see fundamental, good & beautiful aspects of life
• Who... (OK, you get the picture!)

Is that an "exceptional" Russian woman?

No - it is a NORMAL Russian woman.

Every man's dream? Possibly!

If it is YOUR dream - make it a reality...


Read more about Russian women and true success:
http://russianwomen4westernmen.blogspot.com/2007/01/russian-women-and-true-success.html


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Russian Beauty of The Week

I had the thought that with all the talk on this site about Russian women, it's all talk and no pictures!

As you can see, I am certainly enthusiastic about the subject, so I thought it would be appropriate to SEE some of the "subjects".

So now I have a "Russian Beauty of The Week" photo included on the side (scroll to find her).

I have kicked it off with a gorgeous girl I personally know.

If you would like to nominate someone (and you have their photo), please do. She must be Russian / FSU though! Photos showing her in her local environment would be good.

Just make sure it's someone you know and preferably have their permission to have their photo posted for all to see.

To contact me / send photos, click on my Profile to send an email.
Include some info or any story that goes with the photo.

Let's see how it goes!

Beautiful Sexy Russian Brides Prefer Average Men

One thing that often worries guys about potential Russian brides, is the gorgeous photos they see.

They worry that the pictures they see are perhaps too good!

Not only "too good to be true", but perhaps "too good for me". On this particular subject there are some things you really should know.

If you think most of the photos look professional, and the girl "model like", you're right. It is normal for a Russian girl to not only want to look her best, but also to have professional photos taken of herself.

If you compare the profiles of ladies on a local dating site to those on sites promoting Russian ladies, you will quickly see a huge difference. Western women are generally content to use any old "happy snap" photo for their profile, whereas a Russian lady will only use a professional photo where she is dressed well and looking her best.

This is not just something done by dating sites or introduction agencies, rather it is a cultural thing. It is in their nature to take great pride in their appearance and be conscious of how others see and perceive them.

Most Russian ladies searching for a husband overseas are not looking for guys with movie star looks, nor are they looking for wealthy or "well-connected" men. In-fact, guys that are "too" good looking can often deter many of these ladies from responding to them.

Most of them are simply looking for "normal" or "average" guys, someone decent and likeable, with family values. So don't be intimidated by very good looking ladies, or even by their often high education levels, as they are usually not as demanding or "high-maintenance" as you may think.

Remember, you are thinking from your Western experiences. Throw those thoughts out the window, and get back to basics. Basics like age, mutual interests & goals, and, do you find her attractive?

If those things seem right, then go ahead and contact her. You will soon know if the feeling is mutual and then you simply take it from there. Think in general terms and don't get stuck on small details when reading profiles, just cover the basics initially.

Why complicate something that's really simpler than you may think!


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