Do Russian Women Prefer Men With Degrees?

If you look at profiles of Russian women, they are most often holders of university degrees and will usually state they seek men who are also of higher education (i.e. college / university degree).

What if you don't have one? Does that harm your chances? Does it seriously narrow the field?

I would answer: No - there are much more important considerations.

Russian women considering husbands from abroad are more interested in basic human qualities more than higher education.

They want to know if you truly desire marriage and children.
They want to know if you are ready to love and be loved.
They want to know if you are a "good person", kind, honest, faithful and generous to those you are close to.
They place great importance on your attitude to alcohol - no heavy drinking.

If you can satisfy the above, (not too much to ask for!), then you are well on your way to success.

Other factors such as how rich, educated or good-looking you are, are of little importance to a genuine Russian bride-to-be.

Basic human qualities rate far above possessions or achievements.

Now, isn't that the way it should be?

Russian Women and Greedy Western Men

A key difference you may encounter when meeting Russian women is how they look at money, concepts of "value", and the etiquette of it all.

In the West, we always observe prices and make judgements about "value for money". It is also not considered unusual to discuss such things in almost any situation. Although even in the West, you wouldn't want to make it too obvious that you only select things based on price, especially in a romantic situation, for the risk of appearing "cheap".

In Russia / FSU it is considered "bad manners" to talk of how "expensive" something is, or that it does not represent "value". At the start of a relationship, it can be the kiss of death.

First, let's look at how different terms are perceived.

To a Westerner, "expensive" or "dear" = "overpriced", and "not good value-for-money"

To a Russian, "expensive" means "I can not afford it / do not have the money for it"

Think about that for a second. There's a critical difference in word meaning alone. "Pricey" v. "unaffordable".

More importantly, common social etiquette for Russian people is to not even discuss such things, especially in a romantic situation.

If a Western man objects to something being "expensive" in any way, he is labelled "greedy". He is perceived as being "tight" and "money-counting" or "penny-pinching".

A lot of it is due to costs and means of living. You have grown-up in two totally different systems of living, and paying for your living expenses. In the West, you are accustomed to having to be totally responsible for all the costs of living, and having to budget accordingly.

Unfortunately for an unknowing Western male, it's difficult for you to be seen as just being "wise with your money" when you make $4000 per month, compared to $100-200 per month average monthly earnings it the FSU. How could you not afford something?

When you comment that something is expensive, and you have a wad of cash in your wallet, you are clearly greedy. If you don't want to buy something, then don't. But don't make a fuss over it, just move on.

People of the FSU do not understand that most people in the West barely see anything left of that $4000 after all the expenses of a month's living. But don't try too hard to explain the "relativeness" of earnings and expenditure between the two different countries - it won't wash. You're just trying to make excuses for your "greediness"!

A genuine Russian lady will not like to admit she is "in need" of anything or is unable to afford the things she needs in life. Whilst she will gracefully accept "romantic" gifts (flowers, chocolates, even jewelry) from someone that takes her interest, she will not be comfortable accepting more practical gifts or financial assistance under most circumstances.

Russian women like generous men. Now that doesn't mean you have to shower your girl with constant gifts and expenditure, it's more about generosity as an approach to your prospective partner, rather than generously spending money as such. It's about thoughtfulness, and courting like a gentleman. Excessive gift-giving or financial assistance may back-fire on you without you even realizing it. She does not want to feel greedy herself! She also does not want you to think she can be bought, or for her to feel she is "for sale".

If you are only at the stage of getting to know a girl by long-distance relations (emails/letters/phone), you can impress her by sending her flowers/gifts. You will appear "generous". When you do meet her in person, you MUST have gifts. It is essential. They don't have to be in any way expensive - it's the thoughtfulness behind them that's important. But whatever you do, don't even discuss costs or perceptions of "value".

When you discuss meeting for the first time, don't comment on the cost of the travel or how much of a good deal you've been able to source. The ONLY thing that matters is that you have made a commitment to visit her. If you start talking costs, it will seem your priorities are not quite where they should be!

If you say you can not afford to buy your tickets just yet, it sounds like an excuse for you not wanting to commit to making the journey to seeing her. You obviously do not WANT to visit her. You may think you're just being honest - and she may think you're being dishonest!

If you really are having a problem with affordability (for travel tickets and other expenses), it is better to push back the date and tell her you cannot travel until that time due to work commitments or leave entitlements (or whatever), rather than say anything about costs. Remember, she wants to know that you are coming, not the details of your monthly budget.

When it comes to money matters - just be tactful and discreet. It's that simple.

When you are courting a lady, money is just a system of payment, NOT a focus.

Focus on what's more important...


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Sex Tours and The Three Insults

This is probably a good follow-up to "Those Ukraine Girls..."

Unfortunately, many men from around the world get a little too excited for all the wrong reasons.

If you are going to Ukraine, Russia, or any other FSU country, what are you going there for?

Women? Sex?

Or, are you going there for the chance to meet "The One" ?

Some men are at least honest when they say they are going there "for the women" - read: "going for a good time".

Sadly, many are deluding themselves by going "for the women" under the illusion of "looking for The One" - if they can just happen to find her at the same time.

This excerpt is from the Kyiv Post (Kiev, Ukraine)
http://www.kyivpost.com/opinion/oped/22660/

The Coming Summer Sex Boom
May 04 2005, 20:23

Summer’s on its way to Kyiv, which means mini-skirts and stiletto heels for women and the sex tourism season for too many men. Hordes of Turkish, German, American, French, English, Italian, Swedish and other men will, as they have for years, descend on the country over the next few months in hopes of finding “the right girl” – for marriage, supposedly, but in many cases for a week or a night.

The combination of long-standing native social attitudes and the sex tourism industry is doing a number on the mentality of local women. How many times have I heard foreign men who have dated Ukrainian women complain that women here are unknowable? That they’re all greedy and out for money? That they can’t be trusted? Is it possible that these women have simply learned to respond to a world that too often expects little more of them than to smile all the way to the bedroom? If they seem inscrutable, and like they’re out to get something from the men they interact with, that’s likely because they know that guys have an agenda in regard to them, too.

Just the existence of short-term sex tours for men to Ukraine is bad news for women here – an insult to them. Would German men or French men enjoy foreigners coming to their country en masse looking for sex with their sisters, daughters, friends and co-workers? Probably not. They’d be insulted. And yet they, and others, subject Ukrainian women – and Ukraine – to insults that they would never want to put up with themselves.

If you're a gentleman going there for all the RIGHT reasons, then make sure you look in the RIGHT places.

As you can see from the above, if you look in all the wrong places, you're bound to find all the wrong things that you hoped you wouldn't.

If you want to be one of the idiots sweating it out on the dance floor with hundreds of fellow idiots who are there with the same insulting intentions, then don't complain about what you find in that environment.

Things go hand in hand. People with bad intentions tend to bump into other people with bad intentions. Why expect any different?

If you want to go on "sex tours", remember three things:

1. You insult yourself
2. You insult your country of origin
3. You insult the country and it's people that you visit

You insult yourself by reducing yourself to a pathetic slave of your primal sex-drive which you have mis-read and redirected down the wrong path.

Real men are attracted to women. That's a fact, and long live that fact!

But men on "sex tours" are failed men who don't grasp the concept of successful relations with a woman, and the ultimate fulfillment it brings. If they realized they could find so much more by approaching a different environment AS a different environment, not just a honey-pot away from their inadequacies at home, they could find more than they ever thought possible.

You insult your country of origin for basically the same reasons. Pathetic men from a country of pathetic men? Ouch. That's a harsh image to throw back on your own country.

You insult the country you visit, it's people, it's culture, and especially the women. This is obvious and surely doesn't need further explaining. Refer back to the last paragraph of the article quoted above.

Then go back to #1 - You insult YOURSELF. Why would you do that?


Remember TRUE SUCCESS ?
Most Russian / FSU women understand what true success is.

Real men also understand what true success is.

Be a real man!

http://russianwomen4westernmen.blogspot.com/2007/01/russian-women-and-true-success.html


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Russian Women and Stupid Men - Part 2

What's worse than the possibility of being labelled "stupid" by other people after getting scammed?

Knowing you've been scammed, and feeling / labelling YOURSELF as being stupid.

So, just "bury your head in the sand" and "hope for the best"?
I don't think so!

As the wise old saying goes - Prevention is better than cure.

If you haven't already read Part 1 to this, do so now...

http://russianwomen4westernmen.blogspot.com/2007/01/russian-women-and-stupid-men-part-1.html

Now, in this part, let's look at Basic Money Scam Scenarios and Red Flags to watch out for.

Most scams/fraud against men from Western countries by women from Russia or FSU countries, are not too sophisticated in nature, but for the unwary, they could at least waste your time and possibly impact upon your view of the women in general, let-alone take your money.

Picture these scenarios:

You contact a lady, or are contacted by one, and you start exchanging correspondence to get to know one another. After a few weeks everything seems to be going well despite the language and cultural differences, and then she asks if it would be possible for you to send a little money for her to continue to use the "Internet Club" to keep up the emails between you and her.

Is she a scammer?

You're in contact with a lady, and all is going well, then she says she wants to come and meet you in your country. She will organize things. No mention of money.

Is she a scammer?

Again, all is going well, she writes many emails but does not answer any specific questions you ask, or if she does, it is only as a short note at the end of the message.

Is she a scammer?

OK, straight to it -
1st scenario - maybe, maybe not.
2nd scenario - most likely.
3rd scenario - most likely.

In the first scenario, it's not a good sign if any woman is that forward in asking for money, as most genuine ladies would not, especially before you truly get to know each other. Having said that, it's true that many of them do have to use internet cafes to access email, as most people in FSU still do not have internet access at home. The cost is not huge, but compared to incomes, it can be relatively expensive. Still, to always protect yourself, remember "Rule 1" (don't send money).

In the second scenario, if she states her intention to come to you in order to meet, even if there is no mention of money (yet), start running (away)! She can NOT visit you. That's all there is to it. When you're serious about your Russian girlfriend, you'll have to go and meet her, in her country. You can bet your bottom dollar that even though she does not indicate any need for money, things will "happen", just before she is due to depart (and just as you're getting excited), and she will require you to send the dollars! And then some!

In the third scenario, it's a bad sign because it sounds like she could be sending you "form letters", the same ones that every other guy she's scamming is also receiving! If the girl is genuine, she wants to know about YOU, just like you want to know about her. She especially wants to know basic things to determine that you are a "good" man, and want to have family life and children. If the letters are all flattery, romance, and infatuation, but not really practical exchanges to get to know one-another, get ready to be disappointed!

Red Flags!

You need to be cautious when....

• She contacts YOU first via a large, free for all, dating site
• She has great photos but little information in her on-line profile
• She writes of "structure" in her profile or initial contact
• She sends you nude or very suggestive photos
• She specifically mentions anything about being a virgin
• Photos she sends have file names that contradict her story/name
• Her profile location contradicts where she says she is located
• Her childhood friend married a man from Germany or France (not an English speaking country)
• Her English is very good - all sentences make sense (Russian-English translation usually results in "jumbled" English at best)
• She writes poetry - in English (again, translation would ruin it)
• She starts writing very affectionately within a short time
• She declares her love or strong desire for you within a few months
• She asks for money at any time, for any reason, before you have met
• She writes of financial difficulty or crisis (an implied or actual money request is just around the corner!)
• She questions you on your income, wealth, assets, in any way
• She says she has no home phone but can call you from another phone
• She says she can get herself a Visa to come and see you. (NOT possible)
• She says she has family or friend in Visa office, airport, or travel agency
• She changes/contradicts details about her family and life
• She makes a mistake with your (or even her) name
• She knows exactly how Western Union (etc) money transfers work

Many of these appear obvious, but they can often appear quite innocent when combined with a good story.

The issue of photos can be tricky. A photo added to each letter can be a bad sign - part of a "form letter" system. Only ever receiving one or two photos can also be a bad sign as they may have just been lifted from the web somewhere. Ask for more photos, and if she does not have them on computer (which could be most likely), ask her to send by real mail.

As stated above, check the file names of images wherever possible - look for different girls names, methodical numbering system, or file names that sound like statements (to fit the form letters, and different scenarios).

A genuine Russian husband seeker is not going to send you nude or very suggestive photos of herself. Nor is she going to mention her virginity. She is also very unlikely to show her deepest feelings toward you for quite some time, as they tend to be guarded about such things, especially before you have met in person.

Any genuine girl also knows she can NOT get a Visa to visit you in a Western country, whether it be a "tourist", "student" or "fiance" Visa, whenever she likes. YOU have to assist her to get the Visa, and remember Visas can ONLY be obtained through your country's embassy/consulate, not through any "agency".

If someone does not have their own phone, then chances are they can also not afford to make overseas phone calls to you! Yes, it IS possible she does not have a home phone, let-alone a cell/mobile phone, but she should still be able and willing to give you another number, usually of a family member close-by, who does have a phone. She should also be very willing to give you her home address, so you could send her (real/postal) mail.

Remember that some of the above scenarios could come up and she may still be a 100% genuine girl, so be careful not to dismiss someone instantly just because you see a "red flag". If anything looks suspicious - test her out on something, it's not hard. If more red flags appear, then it's time to make a decision and move on.

What if you're still not quite sure?
What can you do make sure your Russian beauty is real and everything adds up?

I will continue with that very theme in Part 3...


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Russian Women and TRUE SUCCESS

I had an interesting conversation with an elderly gentleman recently which amazed both me and him.

We were talking about money, property, wealth for retirement, etc, etc. Like a lot of older people, he says "I wish I knew back then (when I was younger), what I know now", in relation to financial matters.

He proudly told me about how "successful" his son was, who had well-above average wealth for his age (mid 30's), and how he was constantly disappointed by his daughter (in her late 30's), who had virtually no wealth at all.

Of course the word "wealth" was used in a purely economic sense.

I know both people (his children) reasonably well, and let me tell you their critical differences, and why I questioned his interpretation of success.

The son is a really nice guy, and yes, has achieved some impressive goals thus far in his life. He is also single, never married, no children, lives a fairly quiet life, and doesn't feel like he's really achieved much at all in life thus far.

The daughter, a bit older, was married and had children very young. The marriage did not last and she became a single-mother for most of the children's lives. She now has two, virtually adult children, who are both really great, surprisingly well-adjusted young people. Yes, she's hopeless with money, and like her brother, feels she hasn't really achieved anything in life thus far.

If neither of them seem particularly happy with what they've achieved thus far, then are either of them "successful"?

Their father certainly thought it was clear who was successful and who wasn't.

I asked him if he thought either sibling envied the other. He replied that he presumed his daughter envied her brother for being much more "successful" than her.

I said I wouldn't be surprised if there was more envy flowing the other way. In reality, I actually thought there might be equal measures of envy between the two, but I was just trying to push the point with him. The old man was surprised at my suggestion, laughing at first, but then, realizing I was quite serious, asked why I would think that.

Rather than answer him, I said "ask him" (your son). He looked worried at the thought, so I suggested he just casually ask his son "how's life?" or "how is everything going for you?", or similar.

When I next spoke to the old man, he had tracked me down especially to speak to me and was keen to tell me about the conversation he had with his son. They live quite a distance apart, so the conversation was on the phone. He said he casually raised the "how's life?" subject and was blown away by what ensued.

The result? They spoke for over two hours!

I was not only right, but even I was shocked at how right I was. The old man obviously thought I was amazing, as he told me all about how his son really admired his sister's "achievements" so much more than his own. He said the conversation was a total revelation, and shook his own views on life, success, and the eternal "what are we here for?" question.

So the son thought the raising of two, healthy and well-adjusted children was a far greater success story than his financial achievements, and single status. The old man was blown-away. He had never really thought of it like that. It was real "meaning of life" stuff, and he had no idea that his son thought that way.

I said: "So maybe that's TRUE SUCCESS, and it's got little to do with money?". He nodded in agreement, looking like a changed man, (I kid you not).

Of course his daughter does not envy her brother. She is very proud of him - not envious.

So what does it all mean?

Firstly, I think everyone, male and female, are only "fulfilled" in life by having children.

Many people will argue and debate that point, but only because they are insecure and dishonest with themselves.

When I then asked the old man: "have you ever praised your daughter for her achievement as a mother, doing so well despite all the hardships she went through?", he not only looked guilty, but had tears in his eyes. (Then I felt guilty!)

Subsequently, he DID praise his daughter, which apparently was a very special moment for her (not surprisingly), although she did say: "I just did what comes naturally to me". It sounds like mere modesty, but I think it's much more than that, probably even more than SHE realizes.

People who CHOOSE not to have children are the ultimate failures in society. Think about it. Like all animals, or plants for that matter, the purpose of life is to carry on through reproduction. It comes naturally, and so it should.

It seems that in Western society, many people have "lost the plot", preferring an eternal life of "zero responsibility consumerism".

Frighteningly, (to me anyway), it seems to be increasingly common in women rather than men, despite the old stereotype that "women want children - men don't". Like my story illustrated, it is largely not recognized that men feel like non-achievers if they do not become fathers. We are programmed to be fathers!

Russian women want children !!

If you are considering a Russian bride, get one thing clear - she wants children!

In Russian culture, success for a woman is measured in terms of marriage and children. That does not mean Russian women want many children, most only want two. In Russia, many women are only having one child, often for financial reasons - wanting to give that child the best opportunities in life. Sometimes there's also the question of commitment to having further children on the part of the husband.

If you look at on-line profiles of Russian (or FSU) women, you will see the majority of them will be very direct about what they want - a husband and children. She will most often say she wishes to create a wonderful family life, looking after her husband and children.

Rarely will you ever see a Russian woman seeking any material/financial or "status" qualities from men. They are simply seeking decent men for life-long partnership with the common goal of having children, and a comfortable, loving, family life.

They will often say "it just seems natural to me". You will also see such comments as "I wish to make home coziness, caring for the favourite person" ("favourite person" = husband), and "I dream of creation of strong family, and a home filled with the laughter of happy children".

Russian women are refreshingly different! Of course, Western feminist non-thinkers are horrified by such beautiful femininity, but who do you think is happier and truly "fulfilled" in life?

Russian women understand...

TRUE SUCCESS = THE SUCCESSFUL RAISING OF CHILDREN

When I first started corresponding with the woman that was to later become my wife, in her first real "letter" (by email), she wrote:

"I wish to have family and children. I do not search for the friend on correspondence. I search for love and mutual understanding. I search for the friend, the husband and the father to our children."

Now that's direct and to the point !!

But as a guy, I can tell you I found that absolutely refreshing!

That sort of directness, obvious femininity, openness/honesty, and "lack of BS" would NEVER happen in Western societies, because the way most people "partner-up" is ILLOGICAL.

Russian women understand TRUE SUCCESS, and what it means to be a "successful woman". They are strong and determined, going after what they want with no illusions or deceit.

Guys - breathe a sigh of relief!


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Russian Women and Stupid Men - Part 1

So far on this site I have not gone into too much detail on "scams" & fraud - yet. As much as I would like to focus on the positives of Russian - Western relations, I feel I have a huge duty to also protect people, not only from others who may not have the best intentions, but also to save some people from themselves. Let me explain.

It's all too easy for anyone to partake in on-line dating and introduction. Most are genuine people looking for genuine relationships, many are curious and exploring options/possiblilities (at least for now anyway), and unfortunately, some people just can't seem to help themselves when they see opportunity to exploit others for personal gain. Of course, without going too much into the subject of "emotional games", or immigration issues, (etc), what I am talking about here is fraud - obtaining money by deception.

How common is it? No-one truly knows the full extent because it is too hard to obtain or analyze the numbers involved. If you are a western guy who has been taken for a ride (read: your money has gone for a ride - one way ticket), you're probably not going to be too keen to tell the world about it, are you?

Having said that, getting scammed is NOT as common as you think,

BUT, it DOES happen,

and, you must be aware of how it can, or is likely to happen,

and, PROTECT YOURSELF.

Let's cover some simple rules:

• Be honest & up-front in your on-line dealings to attract the RIGHT ladies to you
• NEVER send money to any woman you have never met.
• repeat: NEVER.
• Do not reveal a high income to any woman you have never met.
• Do not reveal substantial assets you may own (to any woman you have never met).
• Don't be in a rush, and don't let yourself be rushed.
• Carefully choose service providers you deal with, and know how they make money.
• Do your homework and keep learning all the time.
• Always get a second opinion on anything you're unsure of. (don't be shy - it's easy)

OK, that all sounds easy and "common sense" doesn't it ?
So if a guy can still get scammed, then he must just be stupid, right ?
Wrong!

Firstly, some scamming tricks can be more sophisticated than others.
Secondly, we're talking about the ultimate in emotions here - love, desire, marriage, the future mother of your children, the future & "meaning of life" itself perhaps.
Heavy stuff!
Thirdly.... you're only human!

Read that list of rules again. Carefully.

Also note that not only will those rules protect you financially, but can also help you greatly in finding the right bride for you, save you time, and heartache as well.

Remember, money comes and goes, heartache can be healed, but TIME is lost forever.

More detail on this shortly...


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Beautiful Sexy Russian Brides Prefer Average Men

One thing that often worries guys about potential Russian brides, is the gorgeous photos they see.

They worry that the pictures they see are perhaps too good!

Not only "too good to be true", but perhaps "too good for me". On this particular subject there are some things you really should know.

If you think most of the photos look professional, and the girl "model like", you're right. It is normal for a Russian girl to not only want to look her best, but also to have professional photos taken of herself.

If you compare the profiles of ladies on a local dating site to those on sites promoting Russian ladies, you will quickly see a huge difference. Western women are generally content to use any old "happy snap" photo for their profile, whereas a Russian lady will only use a professional photo where she is dressed well and looking her best.

This is not just something done by dating sites or introduction agencies, rather it is a cultural thing. It is in their nature to take great pride in their appearance and be conscious of how others see and perceive them.

Most Russian ladies searching for a husband overseas are not looking for guys with movie star looks, nor are they looking for wealthy or "well-connected" men. In-fact, guys that are "too" good looking can often deter many of these ladies from responding to them.

Most of them are simply looking for "normal" or "average" guys, someone decent and likeable, with family values. So don't be intimidated by very good looking ladies, or even by their often high education levels, as they are usually not as demanding or "high-maintenance" as you may think.

Remember, you are thinking from your Western experiences. Throw those thoughts out the window, and get back to basics. Basics like age, mutual interests & goals, and, do you find her attractive?

If those things seem right, then go ahead and contact her. You will soon know if the feeling is mutual and then you simply take it from there. Think in general terms and don't get stuck on small details when reading profiles, just cover the basics initially.

Why complicate something that's really simpler than you may think!


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Russian Women Desire Western Men - Myth or Reality?

A quick search of the web on the subject of "Russian women/brides" (etc) will reveal mostly websites screaming out about how 1000's of women are are waiting meet YOU, and right NOW.

Occasionally, you'll also see an article about "scamming", "immigration scams" and "internet-based fraud" against love-struck men from around the world.

We've certainly covered both extremes! What's the reality for the average guy?

FIRST THINGS FIRST.
Who writes all of those things, and WHY?

The former are written, of course, by Introduction Agencies. (no prizes there!)
The latter are written by "journalists" who thrive on the sensationalism of a "hot story".

Now the WHY part:
Introduction agencies are after your money - of course they make it all look like a dream!
The journalists write the negative, because (as already indicated), "news" media thrives on negative news, not things that are positive and good. (don't believe it? grab a newspaper and tally the "bad" news against the "warm and fuzzy" stories - the exercise won't take long!)

Most introduction agency websites will also offer plenty of "advice" on what to do, how to do it, how to avoid "scams" or "scammers".

To save you the trouble, here's what they ALL say:
What to do: "use our agency, not anyone elses"
How to do it: "register here and give us your credit card details"
Avoid the scams/scammers: "refer to rule 1"

Am I giving introduction agencies a hammering? Yes and no. (OK, mostly yes!)
But, like anything in this world, there are the "good ones and bad ones". I think most of them probably deserve at least a bit of a kick. Some should be banished from the face of the planet. Some should probably be praised for doing a reasonable job.

The point is, they are out to make some serious money out of guys looking for love. Powerful stuff to be messing with - love, relationships, money, family, loneliness, self-worth, etc.

Back to the main point - women from Russia seeking Western men.

There is so much that could be covered here, so let's keep it to some basic points...

Yes, there are many 1000's of women in Russia and the former Soviet Union ("FSU"), who seek marriage to men from the West.

Are the majority of women over there inclined that way?
No! Certainly not.

Think about it - why on earth would a young lady seek to leave her family, friends, home, familiar surroundings, language, culture, job/qualifications, etc, etc, and move to another part of the world just for a Western guy? Are we that great? (hmmm... tough one to answer objectively!)

The reality is: it mostly comes down to "compatibility", plus "supply and demand".

Sorry to sound so clinical, but it's as simple as that.

In Russia and the FSU countries, WOMEN OUTNUMBER MEN.
More accurately - available & marriage-ready women outnumber available/marriage-ready/willing/suitable men.

In fact, the imbalance is quite significant. It doesn't take a genius to then guess what the result of that is. Women must try harder, and men don't need to try much at all! Does that make the Russian men "bad"? No, it makes them human. In general terms, if the same imbalance was replicated in any Western country, the same result would be evident.

Now the "compatibility" bit - it really stems from the above.
If you're a young Russian lady, and you don't manage to find "Mr Right", and very quickly (as Russians generally marry quite young, ie by age 23 is considered normal), you then only have the pick of men who are generally not interested in making much of an effort (clearly, because they haven't been captured!).

Again, I have no intention of speaking ill of Russian men, as that's not the point of this, but you can see where compatibility goes out the window when you've got women who make a lot of effort to be an attractive "catch", and men who simply don't need to.

So, she can "settle" for less than she's after, or further her search abroad. Literally.

There is much more that could be added here and now, but the above is the most important and basic point.

Russian/FSU women are simply seeking the life-partner, whether locally, or internationally.

They are feminine and family-oriented, and simply seek a "decent man" as a partner. That's it guys - it's as simple as that.

The top priorities for the typical Russian female are to get married, have children, and be a fantastic wife and mother. To most Western guys, this is almost unbelievable, and also very refreshing. There's also nothing wrong with thinking that either. You're not a chauvinist, and you're not seeking to "oppress" women in any way, you just like females to be feminine. You find that to be very attractive. As I said, those are the "top" priorities, not the only aspects to their character.

Which brings us back to compatibility. You can see a "win-win" situation emerging. Women and men getting what they want from each other, on the most basic of levels. Women finding available men who are wanting to marry and have a traditional family relationship, making an effort to treat a lady as such, and to provide for his family. Men finding attractive and feminine women, usually younger than themselves, who wish to be a devoted wife and mother as top priorities, and enjoy being treated as a lady.

The Western, so-called "feminists" can throw their hands up in the air in horror, but who do you think is the happier? (couldn't help myself but throw that one in!)

In summary, Russian women looking abroad for husbands seek just that - a husband. Just a decent, "normal" guy to share life's journey with. They are not just trying to escape their local environment or seek a "better life" in a wealthier country. Genuine women are not after your money or possessions. They are generally not particularly materialistic at all. They are after a suitable partner. That's it.

Seeking a Russian wife IS a viable option for Western men, and can be extremely rewarding, for both people. It's also not for everyone, and should be approached with "eyes wide open". Be cautious, even sceptical, but also be open to things that will "blow your mind", and warm your heart.

There's a whole other world (of happiness even), to discover. Get ready.


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